This week is over but chaos is just starting

Well, Milan stopped by on Tuesday evening as promised. He arrived about 6pm. Jessica, Jordan, Milan and I played in the back yard for about an hour. I ordered pizza and tried to time it so that it would arrive hot about the same time that James would get home from work. Right about 7pm, we put a DVD in so that Jess would have an activity to do indoors with Milan. We have to be creative when he comes to the house so, we all watched Robots. The pizza arrived about 5 mins after James did. We ate during the movie and when it was over about 8:15pm I told Jess that it was bedtime. She just said "OK" and hugged Milan goodbye like it was any other visit. She told him "See you at Christmas." She didn't cry or give any indication that she was upset at all. She didn't need extra hugs or cuddles at bedtime or anything... I have raised a very amazing little girl.

Yesterday was the last day that the girls will be in daycare. Mom will watch them when need be over the summer then Jessica will start Kindergarten in the fall at Nichols Hills Elementary and I am pre-enrolling Jordan into Pre-K at West Nichols Hills. They can't guarantee a space for her at age 3 but if they don't have enough 4 yr olds to fill the class then they will take enough 3 yr olds to make the class. Here's hoping there are not enough 4 yr olds next year. When I went to pick them up from school yesterday, Jordan had no idea of the significance. Jessica understood but she was ready to move into her summer and she's excited to start Kindergarten next year. Of course, I was teary-eyed. (I know, I'm a goofball) Tabby, Diane and a couple of other teacher's were just as emotional as I was; these girls had been in the same center for 2 1/2 years. I was proud of Jessica for being focused on what she's moving to instead of what she was leaving. She's so cool!!!

We also went to court on Wednesday. It was a mess. The short version is Christian told the guardian that he thinks I don't like him, he thinks I want to kill his mother and I threw him in the time out chair. None of this is true! I love that little boy, I don't like his mother but my negative feelings for her are far from murderous and we don't have a timeout chair. He's never even been in timeout at our new home. We asked the GAL to visit our home to see Christian interacting. It would be obvious that none of that is true... You don't take piggy back rides or snuggle on the couch with someone who you think doesn't like you or who you think wants to kill your mother. The guardian refused to visit our home. Christian has clearly been coached and the guardian is choosing not to see it or even worse, she's ignoring it. Because none of the things he said are true, I know that there is no proof. So, she is not only ignoring the coaching, she is also ignoring the evidence that we've given her of the unstable, angry, violent and alcoholic environment that Christian is being raised in. For the next 6 weeks, she has said that I am not to be left alone with Christian, James' visitation is limited to 9am-8pm. Pick up and drop offs are to be at Penn Square Mall, east side doors of Dillard's. Rachel and James have been ordered to go to counseling and I was asked to volunteer for counseling. We were told to take down our photo blogs; We are not allowed to photograph Christian. We are not allowed to video or audio record Rachel for documentation or any other reason. Christian is not to have any rules while he is in our care, we are supposed to keep things low key and make him feel comfortable in our home. We've done everything possible to make him feel at home here. With all of this it feels like she has already made her decision to side with Rachel and she doesn't want us to have any evidence of Rachel's behavior to show a judge to prove she didn't do her job. James asked what to do if Rachel doesn't show up to drop offs or pick ups. Laurie said, "She will." James asked, "How long do we wait?" Laurie said "You wait!" James graduates in May. It is not on a Sunday. James asked to get him on his graduation day. At first, Laurie said it was fine. Rachel said he can't go unless she gets to take him. So, Laurie asked James to find an extra ticket for Rachel. UUGGGHHHH!!!! If she wanted the privilege of going to James' graduation, she shouldn't have cheated on him, she should have been a good wife and a good mother, then she might have earned the right to be by his side at graduation. There is no reason we should have to give up a ticket to her when we already do not have enough tickets for the people we want to be there. There is too much petty stuff going on here and the GAL is not doing her job in my mind, she is ignoring the real legally documented issues in preference for Rachel's whim. Everyone is telling us we need a new lawyer and we need a new GAL. I think they are right on both counts.