Our first visit with the new rules

840am Rachel called to make sure we knew about the time change.

910am Rachel arrived LATE with Christian laying all of the way back in the front seat.
He was wearing a diaper.

We did not get his Thursday report.

Rachel gave James a package of 6 pepto bismol and told him to give it to Chrstian if he needs it but he doesn't need it right now he's already had a full dose. (per pkg dose size 2 tablets). James checked the box for instructions: "For children 12 and older" He pointed that out to Rachel and told her there is a children's pepto. She said that it didn't work for his symptoms. (diarrhea)

Rachel said he was feeling really bad and would not eat.

When Christian got in the car, we went to pick up breakfast for everyone so that we could get Christian home to bed. (As our morning plans had included breakfast out with family, we cancelled b/c we were told Christian was sick.) We asked to make sure if he wanted anything, he said that he'd already eaten "colored cereal". He didn't know the name of it.

On the way home, we went to the pharmacy for age and symptom appropriate medicine. Asked pharmacist for recommendation. She recommended Immodium AD for kids (age 6 and up). She also warned of the dangers associated with bismuth subsalicylate in Pepto Bismol and likened it to the danger's of aspirin. (reye syndrome)

James called Rachel to find out how many doses she'd given Christian of PB and when the last dose was. She was very defensive and finally admitted she didn't know because Louise gave it to him. Rachel yelling, cursing and name calling cause this and two more calls to be disconnected. In one of the subsequent calls Rachel changed her story and said that she had given Christian half tablets for 3 or 4 doses that he how he got two full tablets, she didn't give them to him all at once ((Did she give him the meds or did louise and how much and when? We still don't know the truth.)) When that call was over, Rachel started calling repeatedly. After the obscenities started in the third call, James warned her that he will not continue to answer the phone just to be yelled and cursed at. She told him he could not do that, it was against the rules. James told her that does not give her the right to harass him. She went ahead with the name calling etc and so he turned off his phone for awhile.

When we checked messages awhile later, one of the messages she left included a threat to come to our house and make a scene.

By 10 am (1 hour after we got him) Christian was good and awake. By 10:30 he was up and running. We had him on the couch with liquids, blanket and a movie. He wasn't having any of that. There were no signs that Christian was even slightly sick. There was every indication that he did not get a good nights sleep but that is it.

Recently Christian has taken to calling his Dad by his first name. (James) We do have witnesses to this.

Yesterday, Christian referred to Buddy as "Daddy"


We had a good day together. We ate lunch with family at a birthday party for my 58 yr old aunt. Christian ate baked chicken and mac and cheese. James went for a walk with Christian by the lake. Then on to bowling Christian's 6 yr old cousin's birthday party. He had a very good time both places. Lots of witnesses that Christian was not acting sick in any way.

For dinner we tried a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Laurie had said he liked the PB&J crustables so we thought this would be something he would like. He refused it. We gave him a choice of gummy bears or peanut butter crackers. He chose gummy bears.

Rachel was five minutes late picking Christian up. For being sooo worried about him earlier in the day that she had to call and call and call and call.. you'd think she'd be on time to pick him up.

Right now, I am thinking our best course of action is to distract Buddy. James doesn't like the idea but it has been suggested that a paternity suit or two might help us out a lot and I think I agree. James just worries that Christian would hate him if he found out later that he had questioned his paternity. I understand that fear but it seems like if Buddy were busy with his own legal issues... our's might go a little smoother. I am at a loss for any other strategical ideas.