How Many Directions Will We Get Hit From?

Milan (Jessica's Dad) called me on Sunday afternoon. He had found out the previous Wednesday that he had been chosen for a position as Operations Manager at an Entertainment Company in Richmond, VA. He of course did not call to let me know early enough to try to see her anytime over the weekend. I asked when he wanted to see her this week. He said was free on Tuesday night. (tonight) He plans to come after he gets off of work at 5pm to spend some time with her and tell her goodbye. I told Jessica Sunday night that her dad had gotten a new job far away and will be moving but he was going to come see her later this week before he goes. She seemed fairly unaffected. James reminded her that Milan's moving does not mean he doesn't love her it just means that when she sees him it will be at special times like Christmas. He also reminded her that she is a lucky girl because she has two dad's her love her very much. I expected Jessica to be very upset and emotional when I told her that he was moving. I know she loves him very much. I was surprised by the relaxed way that she handled it. I am hoping that she handles it just as well tonight when he comes to see her. But I am fully prepared to be a shoulder to cry on if she needs it.

I talked to Pete yesterday afternoon. He said that in Christian's first interview with the G.A.L. he said that he did not want any visitations with us. The GAL suspected parental alienation. Which just means that Rachel (possibly others) have been convincing Christian that he doesn't want to see his dad. One example that we've seen for ourselves is Christian starting to call his dad by his first name. Pete said he really had no idea which way she was going to lean in her recommendation. I am thinking it could go either way; Either Rachel gets custody because Christian does not want to come here OR We get custody to protect Christian from PAS which has been labeled as emotional abuse. James and I are both much more anxious about this court date than we were about the last one. Well, I assume he is too. I know I am. We assume that worse case scenario we will have standard Oklahoma county visitation which will mean every other weekend with specified transfer dates, times and locations. If that is the case we will be very disappointed but we will have to remember that even those limited visits will be better than the two days that she has allowed us to see him this month.

Pete was expecting to receive some notification from the GAL yesterday or today so that we'd know what to expect when we go to court tomorrow. I got an email today about 1pm that said he still had not heard from her.

There is too much going on this week, this weekend we have several places that we are expected to be and the fact is that we can not commit to anything because we have no idea what our life is going to be like after tomorrow. Everything could change in a matter of minutes. We are also certain about some changes that will be coming at the end of the week.

There is only one way to handle this week. That is going to be minute by minute. And in this minute, I need to prepare for Milan's arrival. Once he's here, I can start preparing for court tomorrow. I think James will be coming home tonight to get ready for tomorrow as well. We need a good nights sleep. One thing I plan to do tonight is make a list of dates that are very important that we have Christian, May 5th is the first and most important that I can think of right now but he has also been invited to his cousin's birthday party on Sunday. We need to make a list and then prioritize.