Court Tomorrow

This Sunday with Christian was a very good day. He was a good little man. We had one issue when he couldn't see the tv while we were moving furniture... he was a little rude... but any kid is going to get impatient when you are in the middle of thier game. I did turn off the tv completely and told him not to talk to adults that way. He apologized and tv came back on and we were good to go, all in a matter of seconds. He is getting a better grasp on his letters... G is still giving him fits but the M was another letter he was having problems with and he's got it down now. So, I taught him how to spell MOM and DAD and I told him that when he gets home he should show his mom that he learned how to spell her name. I quized him a couple of hours later and he still had it. He learned quick. We took the kids to play at the mall, 2 hours before anything else in the mall opens, there was no one else there on the toys and the kids had a blast. I even got out there and ran and chased with them for awhile, a short while. When I was done, I thought I would never breath again. When we got home, James took the kids out back to play while I finished Christian's room. When they came in from playing, we showed Christian his room; He loved it! I liked seeing how excited he was. We all played X-Box Eye Toy for awhile, even Jordan was taking turns with us and the kids all laughed at me when I tried. HA! My parents picked up some kitchen chairs for us from mom's friends house. (Her husband bought A LOT of chairs at an auction and no one is really certain about why he bought so many.) Mom and Dad dropped off the chairs about 530ish. The kids had been wanting to go fly a kite for awhile but we wanted to wait until we had our chairs. Once we got them in, we were ready to go play at the park. By this time (actually starting at 5:15pm) Rachel was already calling about getting Christian. James told her that we wanted to take them to fly a kite. He gave her options of dropping him off after the park (Remember she had said he'd be at home with her mom to put him to bed at his new bedtime.) or letting her pick him up when she was done at her bible study (from 7-9) or taking him to school the next day. None of that was good enough. She wanted him immediately. During all of this we found out that she had made plans for after bible study and that in fact, no one was going to be at her house. That implies that she lied about having her mother put him to bed at a new bedtime, instead she was going to take him to Buddy and Louise so that she could go out. It drives me crazy, she doesn't want to spend any time with him, she just doesn't want us to have him. UGH! Anyway, She called again while my parents were here with the chairs, I answered because James was busy. That ticked her off, a lot. She tried bullying me into agreeing that she could come get Christian, now. I told her I don't get to decide this type of thing so I'd have James call her. When all the chair stuff was over, he called and there was no answer. By this time it was probably around 5:45 or so. Since she didn't answer, we had not agreed that she could pick him up yet and for some reason 6pm was her magic number for getting him home so she could leave for bible study, we assumed that she had moved on with her night... James took Christian and Jessica to the park to fly the kite. I stayed home with Jordan, she was being fussy so I gave her some tylenol incase she was cutting a tooth or maybe she had an earache... this kind of fussiness is out of character for her so I knew something was wrong. We rocked for a few minutes and she ended up taking an hour and a half nap. While I was standing in the living room rocking with Jordan, Buddy's car drives past my house. Then they back up and park outside of my house. Buddy was driving and Rachel in the passenger seat. (The two of them think that as a team they are invinsible. Once, when James was giving in to Buddy and letting him pick Christian up and take him to school in the mornings, just to keep the peace, Buddy let his mouth run too far and he knew it. James already didn't like Buddy picking him up and after that, I think it was understood that James would not be letting Buddy pick him up for school anymore. Well, since we can't tell Rachel she can't have him due to the whole joint custody thing... he showed up the next morning to pick up Christian for school just like clockwork, with Rachel by his side.) After some time they left, without getting out of the car and I didn't see them drive by again. When I called James to let him know that they were outside, he said that Buddy was calling from his cell over and over. (As if James would answer for him?) We decided it was best for them to continue having fun and letting the kids fly the kite and I could handle Rachel and Buddy if need be. (I would have no doubts about calling the police and having them removed from my front porch.) Our goal was the keep the kids out of whatever drama Rachel had up her sleeve so they were safer where they were at. After Rachel called from her house and we knew she wasn't stalking us, like she did when James and I first started dating... he came home with the kids. Christian and Jessica couldn't tell me enough about the kite. They are ready to go do it again. James called Rachel back at home when they were done at the park to arrange to drop off Christian.... no answer again. We started dinner and she called from a new number. James called back, her friend answered and passed her the phone, this was just after 7pm, she said she had bible study from 7-9pm. How many people are passing a cell phone during bible study? Anyway... she said she'd be here to pick up Christian about 9:30pm. She was a little late but we had him ready and waiting. She was of course running her mouth... mostly about me... aparently I am insecure and ugly... those are the things I heard... she didn't come in the house so I didn't hear whatever else she was saying and unfortunately, we didn't get it recorded. If this were anyone else in any other situation, I could at least speak up and tell her that she's welcome to her opinion but if she's gonna voice it, she can say it to my face... but that would be considered confrontational and I can't be like that with Christian's mom. Although I say in any other situation I could stand up for myself, I don't know any other adults who would act like this to put me in a position to need to stand up for myself. Long story short... we had a great day with Christian, ... Rachel was not so great.

I talked to my brother yesterday. He knows the pastor where Rachel has been going to church and he has a ton of friends there who moved to Victory from a church that we all went to as teenagers. It's funny right about the time I met James I was visiting churches in the city and Victory was next on my list until Rachel tried to play bumper cars after having stalked me at James' house and then I found out that she goes to Victory. So, I never quite made it for my visit there. Anyway! My brother had gone to the Saturday night service. My nephew Danny and nieces Brittany and Emily saw Christian at church Saturday night. I was happy to hear that. At least some of what she is saying is true and if she is taking him to church then that means he's got something good going on in his life over there. That's a good thing to know. I still think that she uses going to church as an excuse much more often than she actually goes, just because she never actually seems to be out of pocket for very long.... and a cell phone in the middle of bible study??? And... someone living thier life for God, wouldn't do the things she's doing just to hurt someone else and especially not at the expense of hurting her son too.