The Good Stuff

Everyone has been ill this week. I think we all got it from Jordan who, coincidentally is all better now. So, the girls went to school yesterday and James and I got to enjoy being sick in peace and quiet. Towards the end of the day, things seemed a bit better so, we decided to go out and get our marriage license so that we don't have to take off of work again next week for that.

Can you believe it? We got our marriage license!!! It all started to feel very real right there in that moment. I am 8 days from being Mrs. James Huber. They gave us an envelope to self address so that once we turn in our Marriage license after the wedding they can send it back to us when they are done with it. James addressed it, Mr. and Mrs. James Huber. Mrs. makes me sound old but I love the idea of being his wife. I started to get very giddy at that point. When we got home, Fedex had delivered our wedding clothes. The day just kept getting better! When it was time to get the girls from school we ran by and dropped my rings off to be sautered together before the wedding. I should get them back on Tuesday. Everything is coming together very well in the end. Even after all of the issues with our first clothes order not being processed. In the beginning I have to say that I had doubts about whether or not we could pull off a Hawaiian Wedding in December in Oklahoma.

Even being sick, it turned out to be a good day for us, we got to talk to each other without stopping to correct children. We had time to laugh, we did alot of that actually. There was a mexican couple who came into the office where we were waiting to get the Marriage License. The man went to help them and said. "Are you here for a passport?" Even if they had been that was just wrong, and funny. No, they were there for a marriage license. Did you know that you can use a Mexican ID to get your license in Oklahoma? There's no blood test or anything. You show an ID, pay $50 and take an oath stating that your not already married to someone else and that your not related.

We had a great day, just spending time together. Just holding hands and goofing off.

We got the very last of the things we ordered online for the wedding in the mail today. That's it. We've got it all!! I am so excited!! We've had deliveries every day since Wednesday. It's been lots of fun to open everything up and see how it will all go together. Now, we need to work on getting the songs we want qued and we will be done until the wedding day. Woohoo!!

Today, we did have a negative incident today but I am choosing to put it at the bottom of this blog because we need to be concentrating primarily on the good. James called his mother thinking that since we understand now where everything went so wrong we could try to fix it. He asked her to meet him this afternoon because he won't have Christian. She already had plans. He asked her to come over tomorrow. She refused. She said as far as she's concerned she has nothing to say to us and there is no point in trying to talk. He tried to explain that he wants to work this out for lots of reasons, that this has caused him to be basically an outcast in his family and he wants to fix it. She turned it around and asked how many invitations did you send to my family.. That went on for a few minutes but what it boils down to is we sent out a total of 19 invites. We both want a small wedding. We want to enjoy ourselves and we both know from experience big weddings get stressful. Of the 19 invites 4 were to his friends, 1 was to a friend of mine, 5 were to Louise's family, 1 was to Bob. Yes, 9 were to my family. So, he sent 10 invites and I sent 9. We both had to make some sacrifices. Yes, I did send more to relatives but I had to choose relatives or friends and I also have one more brother than he does and a lot less aunts. So far, James' aunts have been great to both of us. There was no malicious reason for not inviting them, it just that there are alot of them and that would have driven up the numbers FAST. Then our small wedding would have been out the window. I really wish that Louise had chosen to be a part of our lives in the last few months she might have seen the many drafts of an invitation list that we went through. All of her family was on the list more than once. She would have seen how hard the decisions that we made were for us. In the end, we tried to keep it to people who we've spent time with on multiple occasions as a couple and people who've made an effort to be a part of our lives. The only people who we discussed not inviting on purpose from the very beginning were the ex's. Even though I am on fairly good terms with Jessica's dad, he and James get along pretty well, he is happy for me that I've found someone who makes me happy and his parents love and support me in marrying James, he is an ex and he is not invited. Beyond that, our invitation list was hours of agony for many days trying to find a way to give everyone what they would want. I will say, the only one who we've not spent any time with as a couple who was invited was Bob. However, he and Linda have been sweet and supportive and he's James' dad. Parents get invites no matter how they behave or how often you see them. Anyway! All of this to say. James tried very hard to get Louise to agree to talk to him and try to work things out and she won't entertain the idea.